Ways to Make Life More Exciting Again.
Retirement is something for which many of us spend years dreaming about and longing. We plot and plan what we are going to do with all our free time once we leave the hustle and bustle of the 9-to-5-life behind.
Then it arrives – and we find ourselves mired in the same old routine all over again. Retirement becomes boring and predictable. Sure, there may be moments of extreme exhilaration. Maybe you have finally planned that trip to Europe; or maybe you signed up for that painting class you’ve always wanted to take.
But what happens during the moments when you’re not taking a big trip, or engaging in a new hobby? Most of us cannot afford to live in the lap of luxury for the entire length of our retirement, regardless of how well we plan. Instead of thinking about the big events, take time to think outside the box, and plan for ways to make every day new and different to maximize your retirement enjoyment. Continue reading
How to Downsize with Alzheimer’s in the Mix.
We have said it before, and you will likely hear us say it many more times: downsizing is taxing on the body, mind and spirit. More than just the physical aspects of sorting, donating, discarding and packing, downsizing takes an emotional toll on everyone involved in the process.
The emotional stress of downsizing can be triggered by memories of the items you are sorting, attachment to a home where you may have raised a family and made many memories, and the echoes in the back of your mind whispering that change can be scary, even if you are otherwise looking forward to the next stage in your life.
All the emotions associated with the downsizing process can be complicated further if one of the seniors involved is suffering from Alzheimer’s disease. Persons with Alzheimer’s disease may already feel anxious or agitated, which can worsen if they are taken from a familiar environment and placed in a new one. So, when downsizing in this kind of situation, there are certain tips and tools that can make the transition smoother for not only the person with Alzheimer’s, but also for others who are involved in the process. Continue reading
Know who to Call When You’re in Need.
The idea of downsizing can be overwhelming for some seniors and boomers. Just thinking about the process can cause anxiety and sometimes depression. Sorting, categorizing and compartmentalizing a lifetime worth of belongings is a challenging endeavor. While some find it physically draining, others may find it emotionally taxing as well.
It is why at all of our Upside of Downsizing conferences, we provide access to, and information about, the kinds of professionals who can help assist seniors and boomers through every step of the downsizing process. This includes mental health professionals and care managers who can help downsizers cope with the emotional side of things.
Whether support is in the form of therapy, medication or assistance navigating the many senior living options available when downsizing, it’s important to make sure you are seeking assistance from the right professional. Let’s discuss the kinds of professionals available and the specialties for each to help narrow down the right person for the job. Continue reading
How to Stay Positive in the Face of Death.
Comedian Joe E. Lewis once quipped that “you only live once – but if you work it right, once is enough.”
As we grow older, we tend to reflect on our lives and question whether we’ve lived them to the fullest. This can be especially true as we begin to lose long-time friends or family members. When those who are closest to us pass away, it is inevitable for us to think about our own mortality in a way we may not have previously done. It also can lead to depression, which in turn can cause other health issues.
Does that mean we shouldn’t think about death, even when we’re confronted with it more frequently? Not at all. In fact, coming to terms with death is a necessary developmental challenge for seniors; however, it doesn’t mean we should dwell on it.
So how do we stay positive during a time when we may be losing beloved friends and family members? Continue reading
Learning to Manage Your Own Needs in the Senior Years.
We’ve all heard some variation of the idea that you can never be truly disappointed if you don’t expect more than you deserve.
As we get older, that saying can take on an entirely new meaning.
Nearly 90 percent of seniors and boomers who participated in an AARP survey indicated they wanted to “age in place,” remaining in their own homes versus downsizing and moving to a retirement community or other housing designed specifically for seniors. When seniors insist on this particular scenario, it can become easy to expect others to help us manage our day-to-day lives in order to make it happen.
Even seniors who have made the decision to downsize and are enjoying their retirement to the fullest still can have some unhealthy expectations where their friends and family members are concerned that can put a damper on those relationships.
Let’s talk about some of the most common expectations and how to not fall into the trap of becoming one of those seniors who demands more than they deserve. Continue reading
Four Meaningful Ways to Give Back This Holiday Season.
Bob Hope once espoused that his idea of Christmas, whether old-fashioned or modern, was very simple: loving others. “Come to think of it, why do we have to wait for Christmas to do that?” he asked.
It is a good question. While there are many people who give of their time and talents year-round, the holiday season always brings with it an increase in generosity. Maybe it has something to do with the spirit of the season or the fact that around the holidays, charities and other nonprofit organizations are more vocal about their needs.
According to the National Center for Charitable Statistics (NCCS), 72 percent of all charitable contributions received are from individual donors. Only 5 percent of corporations and 15 percent of foundations donate to charitable organizations. The remaining 8 percent comes from bequests.
While monetary donations are a big part of the holiday season, they are not the only way to make a difference this holiday season. Let’s talk about some of the most meaningful ways to give back and bring joy to others as we celebrate the season. Continue reading
Three Ways to Focus on Gratefulness.
Roman philosopher Marcus Tullius Cicero once said that “gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues but the parent of all others.”
Thanksgiving, by its very name, is supposed to be about being thankful for the things we have and reflecting on the simple pleasures of life. However, life – for many of us – has become incredibly hectic. We often feel over-scheduled and unable to take the time to simply relax and enjoy ourselves.
When Thanksgiving was celebrated for the first time in 1621 at Plymouth Rock by the Pilgrims and Native Americans, the event lasted for three days. During that time, thanks were given for the first successful corn harvest. The second such Thanksgiving was held in 1623 to denote the end of a long drought that had threatened the harvest. Soon, the tradition caught on in other New England settlements.
Over the years, several presidents declared official days of thanks, but not for the same reason the Pilgrims and Native Americans originally celebrated it. George Washington declared an official Thanksgiving in 1789 and encouraged Americans to celebrate the successful conclusion of the war of independence. John Adams and James Madison also designated days of Thanksgiving during their presidencies, each being celebrated in a different way for a different reason. Continue reading
Concentrate on These Six Areas.
British Clergyman Charles Spurgeon once said that “it is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness.”
Some people spend a lot of time and effort seeking out happiness – a habit that sticks with them well into their senior years. Others follow the philosophy expounded by Rev. Spurgeon and find enjoyment in everything they do.
Regardless of which kind of person you are, it’s a good idea to take stock of six key areas of your life to help unleash ultimate happiness and fulfillment as you head into your senior years.
Area #1 – Social Status
According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services National Institute on Aging, research suggests a positive correlation between social interaction and overall health of seniors. Numerous studies have found that seniors with lower levels of interleukin-6 – an inflammatory factor implicated in age-related disorders like Alzheimer’s and rheumatoid arthritis – can be found in seniors who are socially active. Continue reading
Recognize the Signs of Depression and Kick it for Good.
When we’re younger, we have this fantasy that retirement and the “golden years” will be full of fun times and free of constraints. We relish the thought of not having to report to work each day, spending time on our favorite hobbies and activities and enjoying life the way we see fit.
But then reality kicks in. Retirement can bring with it a whole host of unexpected issues, which can lead to depression in some seniors and boomers. Some seniors and boomers may believe that becoming depressed as we age is a normal occurrence.
However, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, depression should not be a normal or accepted part of the aging process. While it is true that seniors can be more susceptible to depression, it is not considered a normal part of aging. Continue reading
How to Stop Conflict Before it Starts.
Downsizing a home can be a very stressful event for seniors and boomers, especially if the process must be undertaken due to an illness or injury. There is the emotional aspect of leaving behind a home where a life had been built. There also are the financial and physical aspects of downsizing, which involve selling an existing home to pay for the move and getting everything packed up and ready to go.
If a home requires any repairs or improvements to ready it for the market, it can be an added step that is likely to cause family discord if not handled properly. It can be expensive to hire contractors to complete work if friends or family members are able to do it. Continue reading